They do the work and they don't complain about it, well not usually.
This is what someone does when they pursue what they're looking for. As women, we are trained to wait for the man to find us. We don't search as often and we don't send ten emails to men every day. Not swiping means you just might be waiting and waiting.
Life and love have a bit of luck involved, but it's the effort that you put towards the process that will determine the outcome of your fate.
I urge you to leave the drama behind, leave the novel behind, and go out and be happy. Enjoy meeting new people and learning about life outside of your world.
If your profile is filled with deal-breakers and you're saying "don't contact me if...," I promise you, he won't.
They put the same effort into online dating to find a partner as they do in getting that promotion at work.
They know it can take a moment, a day, a week, or a year.