Of course, you don’t want to start with something extremely intimate.That will come off as intense and discourage a woman from opening up. If she’s discussing them with you, you can move towards heavier ones.(Examples go from lighter to heavier) Remember that these subjects often trigger feelings of shame and defensiveness.Sometimes, you will be met with hesitation and surprise when asking a woman a more intimate question.All you’re going to do is reinforce that this subject is shameful and wrong.Instead, you want her to feel this is something natural, normal, and FUN to talk about. Mine was horrible…I remember being so nervous that when I first went in to kiss her, I shoulder checked her instead. With a tipsy grin I shot back, “Oh please, we’re all adults here.
That’s how she’s going to get turned on and see you as a sexual prospect.
Why did women suddenly respond with enthusiasm rather than distaste?
Whether it’s friends, family, religion, or media — many of us were raised to think that expressing our sexual interest (flirting) was wrong. This is especially true for many women who are afraid of being seen as “slutty” or too forward.
Because of this, women often won’t signal their interest first.
And they won’t talk about anything sexual until you do.